eth0 and wlan0 not working simultaniously

There are hard way to do it but here's simple one.
Try to install wicd. it is another network manager that allows you to connect them at the same time.
terminal > sudo apt-get install wicd-gtk
for your wired should be fill with eth0
for your wireless should be wlan0
I guess why NM in Ubuntu doesn't allow to connect the same time, it is probable security reasons.

Ok i installed that program and added eth0 but it still doesnt recognize my ethernet port...only the wifi right now.
When i plug in the ethernet cable the light does not light up on the port either. The cable is already plugged into my desktop and i know that connection is good.

Wade, NetworkManager can share your ethernet and wifi without issues, provided it is correctly configured. What you will likely want is to first remove all of the connections you may have created in the connection editor for wifi and eth0, then rebuild your wifi connection with standard settings (e.g. click the network name in the list, enter the password if there is one, and that's it). For the ethernet connection, create a new one (because otherwise you'll always need to modify the default depending on whether you want to share or connect elsewhere with a wire), and make sure the drop-down for Method under the IPv4 tab is set to "Shared with other computers".

I dont know how but i had it working before on linux mint 10 with this computer.... so i know its possible

now i connect the cable in laptop and it lights up....but the laptop doesnt recognize it unless i uninstall my STA wireless drivers and reboot. but when i do that then my wifi doesnt work!! so i can get eth0 up or wlan0 up.....but not at same time. and i know others have had this problem....it is very frustrating:/

Then this definitely sounds like a race condition in loading drivers, so I'll convert this back into a bug against the kernel ("linux").